Going out with some friends tonight. Yes, I have real friends. LOL, We do this every once in a while to catch up on each other’s lives. Not much changes but it is good just going out and having a nice meal. Sometimes J comes with us. She can be a designated driver just in case.
There are times when I am amazed by people asking me for advice. Like what do I know? It’s that I lack the confidence. I put on a face and answer the best I can. I think it turns out right. 😊 Hopefully if it is a big decision it’s the right one.
See how much confidence I lack.
Maybe it’s because I am the youngest in my family. I never thought my opinion mattered. I always felt everyone around me was smarter. Except Dad. He was quite during dinner time like I was. My brothers and mother would have these deep conversations or use words I could not define. I’m sure they didn’t mean to exclude me. It was more that they each wanted to be heard. I felt fine being the quiet one most of the time.
I’m still like that at meetings or conferences. The pensive one. I wait for others to ask. OK, maybe that’s not 100% true. If I am sure of something I will speak up. But I have to be really sure.
Confidence doesn’t come from knowledge. It’s way more than that. It’s a strong sense of self. Knowing that your knowledge is worthy of the spoken word. Confidence can be instilled at a young age, but we tell our children to be quiet. As if what they are about to say is worthless.
Listen to their voices.
Not just the words but the inquisitive tone. Help them be strong and confident. And be as confident as you can when responding. They learn from watching, not just hearing.