I’d like to chat with those of you who have someone in your life that has a problem with addiction. It doesn’t matter if the person is a significant other, a child or parent, or a close friend. It’s easy to become co-dependent. You want to help the other person. But at what cost?
Addiction is a terrible disease. It seeps into your existence and simmers until it boils over into all areas of your life. Everyone in the home is a part of the illness. It’s evil and takes no prisoners. It sucks the joy out of life.
Even though the addicted person thinks they need the substance, (s)he is filling a void of some kind. Maybe the person is unable to emotionally bond with anyone. Maybe (s)he has suffered so much pain, that (s)he needs to drown it out. Whether it is alcohol, weed, crack, or prescription pills, the disease is bound to alter life, sometimes irrevocably.
YOU, the co-dependent, cannot change the other person’s behavior no matter how hard you try or how much you want to heal the sickness. An addicted person has to realize there is a problem before the issue can be fixed. Trust me on this. YOU are not alone in feeling guilty about taking matters into your own hands and trying to protect your own well-being or that of the others living in this situation.
Being co-dependent sucks. Be strong. Don’t let someone pull you down that road. YOU deserve better!